He was not a prominent man in the church. I was so incredibly supportive of him and his career. A Mormon will tearfully and emotionally recite whichever lesson they need at the given moment.
Girls aren't socially required to be missionaries, unlike men. But I am really in love with him, and see him as a wonderful man. I'd suggest the essays. I've heard way too many stories of people breaking up with amazing people and they end up alone or in a less happy relationship. I alway understood and supported him so it was my way of being useful in the world, too. If she says yes. Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. If you do attend parties like that, expect her to drink 7-Up and volunteer as the designated driver, and to be completely repulsed if you drink too much.
Oh, and remember LDS girls are usually good at leading guys on with potential sex to get guys to agree to what they want join the church. We might not always like the way some priesthood holders act, but to disparage the priesthood is not being responsible. If you and she are sealed in a Mormon temple, your children will be can be sealed to you. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church. If you are worries about her or her family trying to convert you, be honest. See to it that she is aware of your plan, so you both can properly dress.
If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. Do what feels right. I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. Oh well, I'll just pretend she's not mormon and see what happens. I just started dating this guy and he is not only in the army, but a doctor.